Feature: Camping through the Falklands, hidden history of the war’s gay seafarers
30 years ago this month, steward Roy āWendyā Gibson was playing his usual pink piano on his usual ship, the ferry Norland. Like Liberace mixed with Barbra Streisand, his sing-along tunes like Keep the Home Fires Burning and We are Sailing delighted the passengers. But this time the passengers were troops and the destination wasnāt Rotterdam but the far-off South Atlantic.
Paratroopers went on to make him their first gay āmascotā and he became the most famous out gay man of the Falklands/Malvinas War. The 2 Para Battalion honoured him with their official red beret to put on his glitter-filled hair. The Sun even mounted a search for him so that he could attend the 25th anniversary celebrations at Aldershot.
Wendy was one of as many as a thousand out gay men among the 7,000 seafarers on 52 merchant ships in that war, not to mention all the closeted others on the GBT spectrum.
Image: Wendy in the Falklands on the Norland ferry.
This is because passenger ships then had a strong gay, indeed camp culture. On some peacetime vessels up to 95 per cent of the stewarding crew were out homosexuals and trans people ā which was a shock to macho troops.
Gay and bisexual men have been omitted from Falklands/Malvinas War history because itās inconvenient news that gay men can be brave. As Wendy said: āI may be a Mary but Iām as hard as the next, we gays had to beā¦. Weāre still men, weāve got the strength of a man and the grace of a woman.ā
From April until at least June 1982, the crewās role was to keep the ships running and the service good. Stewardsā usual day jobs included looking after passengers and shipsā officers, waiting at tables and helping troops change their bedlinen.
But in this war some were under fire, and working in lifejackets. And in their off-duty hours they gave blood, trained to operate the shipās guns if they wished, volunteered in the shipās hospitals as Kevin did on the Canberra, acted as agony aunts to traumatised troops, and in Wendyās case, wore out his fingers keeping up morale on the keyboard.
Did they have a high old time in their rolling bunks with all those virile young soldiers? Thatās only the stereotype. But Bernie, on a large liner, found several of his military passengers didnāt want to die without know what sex with a man was like. And stewards are helpful people ā so he educated them. Friendships were many and some still endure.
These merchant seamen donāt think of themselves as Falklands/Malvinas War heroes. āNo, I was just ironing the captainās shirtsā joked Norland steward Frankie. But they value their campaign medals and feel proud that they didnāt turn back when offered the opportunity at Ascension Island.
Image: Bernie and some troops socialise in his cabin. (Presence in this picture is not an indication of the sexual orientation)
Their unsung contributions not only include treating Argentinean prisoners like human beings and keeping mum about being gay-bashed and insulted by sissyphobic troops.
In Frankieās case when their ship was being bombed āI went into my Peggy Mitchell mode, screamed, camped my tits off, I did accentuate it, it was my way of copingā¦ it gave men the chance to express their fears too. Maybe us gays were better off than some of the straight people, because when we was frightened we could say āIām frightenedāā¦ we could let it out.ā
And living daily through war alongside accepted and open gay men changed soldiersā ideas about homosexuals. As Para Ken Lukowiak wrote in his memoirs āit is true to say that he [Wendy] now gets more of a mention than the likes of Colonel Jones, VCā¦ And no longer is Wendy referred to as ā¦an arse-bandit ā¦ āGay boyā is about the worst you will hear and itās always ā¦ said with affection. You see, we do live ā and we can learn.ā
Image: Frankie and Wendy party, as usual, on the Norland.
As for the veteran seafarers, in ports throughout Britain theyāll be celebrating the June 14 end of the war, some in gay-friendly dockside bars. Theyāre just glad theyāre back in one piece, even if their nerves are still frayed.
So what, they say, if the record is silent on their contribution: āWe know what we did.ā
Jo Stanley is co-author, with Paul Baker, of Hello Sailor! The Hidden History of Homosexuality at Sea, research for which is currently on display at the Merseyside Maritime Museum.
