This trans woman has some awesome advice for dating whilst trans (VIDEO)
A trans woman has released a video where she attempts to get to the bottom of the problems facing trans people in the dating world.
In the video, Elle columnist Rhyannon Styles talks about her online dating experience, saying that she ādiscovered that you do have to write āI am a male to female pre op transgendered femaleā
āBecause otherwise if you just put transgender that is such an umbrella term that that can be quite confusing for somebody that doesnāt understand the ins and outs of transgenderā¦ā
She goes on to talk about some of the negative experiences where she recieved messages about her genitalia, but admits that she learned to āā¦ take that on the chin because theyāre not worth it,ā
āWhat used to give me a lot of fear was if you were in a situation in a bar for example when somebody would approach you and start talking to youā¦
āAnd then itās like, at what point do you say āI need to tell you that I am transgenderā and thatā¦wellā¦.how quickly would you go into the fact that you have certain genitalia?ā
āUltimately if sex is where it is heading and that person wants to have sex with you thinking you have a certain sex then obviously you have to address that.ā
She went on to explain why she thinks it is a good idea to disclose your trans status early, saying āI think itās much more important to get that out of the way sooner rather than later,
āif the person is not going to be interested in you because of that then, thatās that and you kind of have to accept that and be willing to let that go because you will find somebody that is essentially interested in who you are.ā
Watch the video below.
