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This gay man is pregnant with his husband’s baby

Jun 07 2017
Written by Nick Duffy

A pregnant gay man has opened up about his rare pregnancy with his husband’s baby.

Trystan Reese and Biff Chaplow, of Portland, Oregon, spoke about Trystan’s pregnancy with their first biological son.

Speaking on This Morning, the pair explained that unlike most same-sex couples, they were able to conceive a child naturally – as Trystan is transgender.

Mr Reese said: “I think there are a lot of gay couples who would love to have their own biological child without intervention or assistance from other people.

“For me, I see it as a really amazing gift that I’ve been given. I get to live as a man, and I also get to do this really amazing thing that a lot of people would love to do.”

The couple, who have been together for seven years and married for four, first become parents after stepping up to raise their niece and nephew.

They later became convinced that they should try for their own child.

Trystan explained: “I wanted to keep growing our family, and adopting more kids was not something we could do.

“We could afford another child, but that [adoption] process was very emotionally difficult for our family, and we thought, actually, we already have everything we need to grow our family on our own!

“I had to stop taking testosterone – I talked to a medical team and made sure that was advisable. We know this seems unique to your viewers, but in our community we actually know a few transgender men who have the ability to carry a child, and who have done so successfully.

“For us it’s not that groundbreaking. The doctors said, absolutely this is something you can do, there’s no reason you couldn’t have a happy, healthy pregnancy.”

The pair suffered a miscarriage the first time they tried to concieve, but after another attempt Trystan is now 35 weeks pregnant.

Trystan said: “It has been wonderful so far.”

“I had an ultrasound this morning, and they told me everything looks like a healthy, happy pregnancy should look.”

“I know it’s not how most babies are carried, and I know it’s not how most men are, but I’d just invite people to expand their ideas a little bit of what it could mean to be a man and to be a father.”

This gay man is pregnant with his husband’s baby

Biff, who is a cis gay man, said his partner’s anatomy was never a major issue.

He said: “I think the truth is, for all of us in relationships, when we meet somebody that we are attracted to, we are not attracted to every single part of them, necessarily.

“It’s totally possible for me to, say, enjoy hairy chests but be with somebody who does not have a hairy chest.

“That’s how I saw it. It wasn’t a negative thing… there was so much else about him that I loved and was attracted to.”