Team GB swimmer Mark Foster reveals he does have ‘someone special in his life’
Olympic swimmer Mark Foster who came out as gay this week has opened up about the reaction to his announcement.
Mark Foster, now 47, is a former world champion swimmer who represented the UK at the Olympics and Commonwealth Games.
In an interview with the Guardian, Foster publicly acknowledged that he is gay earlier this week.
Then in his first interview since coming out, Foster has opened up about being with someone special, and the positive reaction to his coming out.
Speaking to the Loose Women panel, Foster acknowledged why he decided to come out now.
He said: “If I look back, I first met my first partner when I was 21 years of age, I was in a relationship for 19 years, then I met somebody else and fell in love with them for seven years. To friends and family, I was out. It took me a long time to tell my mum, a couple of years anyway.
“When I went to work, which was swimming, friends there and swimming colleagues, no one knew. I never shared it. I was completely Mark the swimmer there and Mark the real person when I came home.”
He added: “Going back to when I was a kid, being gay was wrong. Typically, you should meet a woman, get married, have kids, get a house and thatās the way it worked in a sense. Thatās what you get taught. When I did meet someone and started have feelings towards men I was kind of going, well thatās wrong, you shouldnāt be having these feelings. I had girlfriends as well when I was younger, I just kind of knew what I preferred. I just got so used to tucking things away and hiding stuff away.”
The Olympian went on to say that he had a difficult year leading up to his coming out.
He said: “A bit of a difficult year. Dad died in June, there was so many sorts of bits in pieces whereby I never talked about lots of stuff with him,’ Mark said. ‘He obviously knew and knew my partners, but there were some things I wished I had asked [for example] when mum and dad split up, what was it like for him?”
“End of last year was quite a difficult time. I split from my partner and had a break. All these things were going on.”
Of the reaction to coming out, Foster addd: “The reaction has been brilliant. And I do have someone in my life.”
TheĀ former athlete, who has appeared on Strictly Come Dancing and is a regular pundit on swimming shows, admitted he hadĀ kept his sexuality private previously.
He said: “I tiptoed around the issue for so long.
“I got really good at the dance of telling half-truths. Iāve supported the Terence Higgins Trust, Stonewall, Ben Cohenās Stand Up to Bullying campaign.
“But Iāve always done it under the radar. At the Sochi Olympics [in 2014] I did a piece for Huffington Post. I was shocked by the treatment of gay people in Russia and needed to say something ā without revealing anything about myself.
“So I half-said something. Itās always been half-truths in public.”
Mark Foster of Great Britain (Photo by Alex Livesey/Getty Images)
Of the decision to come out, he said: “Iāve just swerved and swerved. Telling half-truths and not being my true self is only hurting me.
“Iām 47, a middle-aged man, and Iām no longer competing. And Iām not the first gay sportsman to come out. Gareth Thomas and Tom Daley led the way.ā
The former sportsman added that heĀ “started seeing a therapist at the beginning of the year”, adding:Ā “I then lost my dad in June. He knew I was gay but we never talked much.
“We had so many things we never shared. I now want to share my feelings.”
He said:Ā “Iāve lived an openly gay life to my friends and family. But I always hid it as a swimmer.”
āWhen I was younger, I thought my feelings were just a phase. I had girlfriends. I never had a boyfriend.
“But I had sexual experiences with boys. At swimming competitions I would go with women to divert attention from the real me.
“Itās not like I didnāt enjoy the act ā I just preferred boys. But I accepted I was gay when I fell in love with my first partner.”
The sportsman added: “I was worried about how coming out might affect my work. My swim schools cater for children and thereās this insidious perception that gay equals paedophile/child molester.
“So I understand whatās stopping gay footballers coming out. Iāve been to many football matches and seen that aggressive mob mentality.
“Because of dressing room ābanterā they donāt want to show their real selves.
“Football is a weird testosterone-driven world and itās the last bastion. But if a gay footballer came out it would change so many attitudes.”
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He added:Ā “I always get asked: āAre you married? How many kids?ā They just presume because most peopleās perception of gay men is what they see on TV ā camp chat-show hosts.
“They canāt put me in that box. Iām conditioned not to share so Iāll usually say: āIāve got no kids but Iāve got a partner.ā If they ask āWhat does she do?ā, I will either correct them or just say: āTheyāre a civil servantā or āTheyāre an antiques dealerā.
“Iām very clever at dancing around stuff. But itās tiring and sometimes I have been honest and said: āNo, I donāt have kids. Iām gay.ā And a guy will surprise me and say: āOh, but you could adopt kids.ā Thatās refreshing.”
