Sara Ramire on why she came out as bisexual after her Grey’s Anatomy character did

NEW YORK, NY - DECEMBER 03: Sara Ramirez attends the "Once On This Island" Broadway Opening Night at Circle in the Square Theatre on December 3, 2017 in New York City. (Photo by Dia Dipasupil/Getty Images)

Sara Ramirez has said that the Orlando Massacre had a large impact on her decision to come out publicly as bisexual.

Ramirez made her name as Callie Torres on Grey’s Anatomy, playing a character who came out to her father as bisexual in 2009, during season five.

The actress revealed that she was bisexual seven years later, just months after 49 were killed in the shooting at Pulse nightclub.

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And speaking to EW and People’s Coming Out Stories, the star said the attack influenced her decision.

“Coming out publicly was something that I was afraid of because I was concerned that it would affect my career in a negative way,” she said.

“I was afraid of the discrimination I might face, not just outside Hollywood, but inside.”

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NEW YORK, NY - OCTOBER 03: Sara Ramirez attends the New York premiere of MarVista Entertainment's LOSERVILLE in partnership with STOMP Out Bullying at Village East Cinema on October 3, 2016 in New York City. (Photo by Craig Barritt/Getty Images for MarVista Entertainment )
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But, she said, “as the years went by, and as the political climate intensified, and as I continued to read and hear about the countless forms of violence perpetrated against us, including the Orlando shooting at Pulse nightclub, an organic, incremental urgency to use my platform to empower those who are part of these communities that I’m a part of came over me in a way that I’ve never felt before.”

Ramirez had no regrets about her decision, saying: “Coming out publicly has given me a sense of relief.


“It’s been a form of liberation for me to own all of my identities so that I no longer feel the need to hold back or hide any parts of myself when I walk through any threshold in life.”

Grey's Anatomy has had a fair few LGBT characters including Dr. Callie Torres. (Photo by Bob D'Amico/ABC via Getty Images)
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Like many others, the 42-year-old star has had to explain her sexuality over and over again, ever since she was a teenager.

“I’ve been coming out to my friends and family since I was 18 years old,” she said.

“Although my caretakers were ill-equipped to support me in the ways that I needed and although I internalised a lot of bi-antagonism and biphobia and discrimination growing up, either in straight spaces or LG spaces, I knew my truth and my truth never went away.”

LOS ANGELES, CA - MARCH 14:  Actress Sara Ramirez attends the Human Rights Campaign Los Angeles Gala 2015  at JW Marriott Los Angeles at L.A. LIVE on March 14, 2015 in Los Angeles, California.  (Photo by Angela Weiss/Getty Images)
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Before she revealed she was bisexual during a speech at the True Colours Fund’s 40 to None Summit, the actress decided to come out to her close friends.

In the middle of a movie night at her home, she paused a film to share her “truth”.

She said the responses were accepting, but slightly nonplussed.

LOS ANGELES, CA - MARCH 14:  Actress Sara Ramirez (L) and Honoree Shonda Rhimes attend the Human Rights Campaign Los Angeles Gala 2015  at JW Marriott Los Angeles at L.A. LIVE on March 14, 2015 in Los Angeles, California.  (Photo by Angela Weiss/Getty Images)
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“Everyone was very supportive and happy for me,” she said.

“The reaction went something like, ‘Huh, cool. Can we get back to the movie now?’”

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