Polyamorous couple Nico Tortorella and Bethany Meyers marry in gorgeous, genderbending ceremony
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Bisexual actor Nico Tortorella has married his long-term partner Bethany Meyers in a gorgeous wedding which they described as “genderbending,” “androgynous” and “fluid”.
Tortorella, 29, opened up about his sexuality in 2016, coming out as “sexually fluid” before settling on bisexuality.
When he grew more comfortable with his sexuality, the star of Younger and Scream 4 took pride in publicly sharing his story to help other young LGBT people.
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And that’s exactly what he’s done with his and Meyers’ fabulous wedding.
Writing on LGBT news site Them.us, the pair described their polyamorous relationship and the thinking behind a magical-looking wedding.
Tortorella explained that “we are two kids from the midwest who fell in love almost 12 years ago on the south side of Chicago.
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“We grew up together, we grew up apart. We taught each other how to love, taught each other how to break. We’ve pushed social constructs and broken boundaries.
“We’ve confused our friends, families, lovers, coworkers, the media, and even ourselves. We’ve said and done the right things and most certainly the wrong ones too,” he added.
“We’ve been boyfriend and girlfriend, boyfriend and boyfriend, girlfriend and girlfriend, no friends, and all friends.”
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The actor continued: “We’ve been straight, confused, fluid, queer, bi, poly, gender enthusiasts.
“We’ve been students of the world and seekers. We’ve been individuals, we will forever be. We’ve been lovers, we are lovers, twin flames and we will forever be.
“We both realise that even the ability to share this story is a privilege we have for a number of reasons. Hopefully a piece of love has jumped from these words to your field.
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“This is our now, shared with you, and tomorrow is a future for us all.”
He said that “in this relationship, we both wear the pants and the dress.”
Meyers said that when it came to her and her new husband, “gender roles have never been our thing.”
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The fitness instructor added that being in relationships with women had changed her views on marriage.
“I started dating women around six years ago,” she wrote. “I started exploring nine years ago.
“I started crushing 12 years ago. I’m sure it all would have started earlier had I known it was an option. Relationships with women did wonders for my views on gender.
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“I imagined what it would be like to marry my girlfriend. Now that I was looking at marriage from the lens of two women, it felt different.
“Who would drop their last name? Who would walk down the aisle and who wait at the altar? Who would pay for it? The idea of marriage started to shift.
“It no longer felt patriarchal, it felt equal.
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“And I finally began to view it for what marriage was at its deepest core.
“The union between two people who love each other, who wanted to build their foundation of future generations together, who wanted the legal rights to wed and be recognised by the state as a single unit.”
Speaking in 2016, Tortorella said he first had a same-sex experience when he was in high school with a friend who was struggling with his own sexual orientation.
Nico Tortorella (Photo by Dimitrios Kambouris/Getty Images for Mohegan Sun)
In 2017, he revealed that he was becoming more comfortable with being bi.
He said: “I really like the term bisexual, and I fall somewhere under the umbrella that is bisexuality.
“I use the word bisexual because people have fought for so long for this word and the fact that it even exists in part of the LGBTI-etcetera is just a beautiful thing, and I’m not gonna be the person to take, like, fluidity or emotional fluidity or pansexual.”
He added: “I’m comfortable somewhere under the bisexual label, and I’m proud of it.”
