Best butt plugs to use alone or with your partner during gay sex

Let’s talk about the best butt plugs for private or group play.

Butt plugs, sometimes called anal plugs, are sex toys for exploring the endless types of sexual pleasure available via your back door.

Sex toys provide you with a great opportunity to find out more about your body and what gets your sexual engine started, whether you’re alone or with a sexual partner.

In fact, for curious men butt plus are a great way to explore what turns you on, by experimenting in private without the need to be with another man.

Explore your butt – find what turns you on, where your prostate is (the male sex gland that swells when you’re turned on, more on that here) – and you can use that knowledge with partners later.

Butt plugs come in all shapes, sizes and materials, which is good news if you’re into experimenting – part of the fun is finding out what works for you.

What’s more, they’re available for all – yes, butt plugs are popular among gay and bisexual men, but that doesn’t mean everyone can’t have a go.

All you need is a bum, really.

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Safety first

Before we get down to business, let’s get some safety tips out of the way.

Sticking something up your bum means that the toy is going into the rectum: that’s the part of your bowel just above the anus.

The rectum can potentially suck things up – and not always in a good way.

We’ve all heard about people heading into hospital with things stuck up their bums, so to avoid this butt plugs generally have quite a wide base or handle on the end.

This allows you to hold onto the end of the plug with your fingers, preventing it from getting sucked up.

Unlike butt plugs, vaginal sex toys don’t always have a wide base on the end and can get sucked into the rectum.

Basically, look out for a base. If it doesn’t have one, don’t stick it up there.

Lube, lube and more lube!

Your anus will need a bit of help when it comes to lubrication. Using plenty of lube ensures that you won’t do your bum any damage and will enhance your butt plug experience.

Oh, and we’d recommend using a water-based lube too, as silicone lube will degrade silicone toys. You can read our full gay sex guide to lube here.

Take it slow and listen to your body

For first time users, it’s likely to feel a little strange having something up your bum, but that apprehension is totally normal and will ease off when you’re relaxed.

It might take a good few tries before you feel fully confident using a butt plug, which is totally normal when it comes to something so personally invasive.

People often worry about having an accident when playing in this part of the park, because of the potential for embarrassment or discharge.

In order to have a clean play, it’s best to douche beforehand (which is washing out the rectum with water) prior to getting stuck in, but it’s whatever works best for you.

Having a towel or tissues handy is never a bad idea, in order to clean up lube from the anus before, during and after play.

In addition to lubing up, take things slow and steady when inserting and removing the plug.

If things are painful, you might need to use more lube or use a smaller sized plug.

Relaxing is probably the most important thing because if you’re tense you’re going to struggle to insert the plug. That’s when you can experience some pain or discomfort.

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Here are some of the best butt plugs on the market right now…

Small but powerful

This baby butt plug might look too small for purpose, but these three inches are guaranteed to send a shiver up your spine.

Push the button for added stimulation to get the party started!

Your anus is filled with nerve endings which respond to the vibrations from this butt plug.

This butt plug has seven functions, which means it has something for everyone.

Just because it’s battery operated doesn’t mean this butt plug needs to stay on dry land. Hop into the shower with it and rest assured that this butt companion will make it out alive.

Rocks-Off Butt Throb 7-Function Vibrating Butt Plug | Buy direct with discretion from Amazon.

Glass? Are you sure?

Yep. Glass butt plugs are safe and sexy.

They come in different sizes too, so build up from smallest to biggest and explore which size is the perfect fit for you.

Because glass is such a smooth material, these glass toys are ideal if you’ve struggled with toys made from other materials.

Not only are they nice and smooth, they last longer than other butt plugs, which your bank balance will thank you for.

You can also use them with any type of lube.

Fill a bowl or sink with some warm water and dip these toys in – warmer toys will enhance the whole experience.

If you’re feeling even more adventurous, go the other way and stick them in the freezer for a couple of minutes for an arctic orgasm.

These type of butt plugs are also particularly easy to clean once the party is over.

Pure Pleasure Sensual Glass Butt Plug / Buy direct with discretion from Lovehoney

It’s all about the prostate

This butt plug’s angle of attack is directed at your prostate.

Home to nerve endings crying out for some attention, your prostate is going to love you for introducing it to this butt plug.

For more information about the prostate and why it’s essential during sex and foreplay, read our gay sex guide to penetrating your partner.

It gives more information on how to stimulate the male pleasure gland during sex, whether you’re on your own or with a lover.

Doc Johnson Mood Naughty 2 Medium Blue / Buy direct with discretion from  Amazon.co.uk

Tour de France

This butt plug is designed to give your hands a workout, with its inflatable feature.

Great for people looking to experiment with size, this butt plug gives you the chance to go from a 4.3 inch circumference to 8.25 inches.

Of course, you don’t have to go all the way if you don’t want to. This butt plug allows you to inflate to any size and has a quick release feature too.

Booty Call Silicone Inflatable Butt Plug Small / Buy direct with discretion from Amazon

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In an emergency, pull the handle.

The handle on the end of this plug gives you full control of depth and angle of penetration.

The fact that it’s also flexible will give you the chance to try out new positions to play in.

Ideal for solo use, this plug will allow diverse play to discover more about yourself.

Either way, this butt plug will have you reaching to pull the passenger alarm – the orgasm is derailing.

Lovelife by OhMiBod – Explore Pleasure Plug / Buy direct with discretion from Amazon.co.uk

Our top tips

Make sure what you’re using is actually designed for the butt, otherwise, it could get stuck, be risky to use or just feel uncomfortable.

Just like with sex, plenty of lube will ensure that you don’t cause your bum any injuries and will make your butt plug experience a whole load more fun.

Experimenting with different sizes can help you work out which butt plug works best for you, and remember to go slowly.

Introducing your partner to different butt plugs gives them the opportunity to join in too as dual play can be incredibly sexy.

Sex toys are a positive, healthy and safe way to explore your body and what turns you on so for curious men, they’re a perfect way to self-educate.