The best sex positions if he has a big dick

Sex needn’t be hard just ’cause he’s hung – trust us and read on.

Sometimes described as the worst problem to encounter in a partner, there is a misconception that guys with big dicks can be impossible to have sex with – but well hung guys really don’t need to be an issue for you or your sex life.

Penises come in all different shapes and sizes, and it’s true that some people sit quite happily at the larger end of the penis length spectrum.

There’s a lot to cover when it comes to penetrative sex, so this article will only cover what to do when there are two (or more) penises in the bedroom.

If you’re looking for more general sexual health advice, we’d recommend checking out the sexual health charity Brook.

Penis length is sadly a cause of anxiety for men, especially those who worry about how their penis measures up to the rest.

There’s no hard and fast rule about what is classified as a ‘big’ penis and, of course, it’s not always about length either.

Penis girth or width is also an important thing to take into consideration.

But generally speaking, it’d be wrong to assume that the positive messaging surrounding having a big dick equates to an easy or healthy sex life.

Related: Man with world’s longest penis now ‘registered as disabled’

Porn gives off the idea that having a large penis is something to be celebrated, putting men who have them at the top of the sexual food chain.

So we might not always consider how having a big dick could be a barrier to someone’s sex life, especially when it comes to penetrative sex.

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You or your partner may be anxious about having penetrative sex, through fear of it being painful or uncomfortable, so we’ve put together some ideas to try out together.

Lube before love

You will have heard this one before, but let’s just say it again – lube is very important when it comes to anal sex.

Your anus will thank you for providing it with plenty of lube before any form of penetration, since the anus isn’t self-lubricating.

If your partner has a big dick, however, you’re going to want to use an extra special amount of lube to help him get in through your back door.

Related: Man claims he’s unable to work because his penis is too big

Start with a finger, or two

Getting your engine warmed up before anal sex is important, so ask your partner to give your anus some attention with his fingers.

Once you’ve lubed up, asking your partner to introduce a finger into your anus can help it to open up and for you to feel more at ease about having something inside there.

Then you can build up with a few more fingers, or switch to a sex toy to help further stimulate your anus.

Butt plugs and other sex toys can be a great tool to help your anus open up and for you to grow in confidence about anal penetration.

On your back

Get him to do some of the work, whilst you take a break.

Lying on your back with your knees tucked into your chest is a great way to help your anal canal straighten out.

This will give his dick a straighter and smoother route of entry, and it’ll be more comfortable for you too.

Work together to discover what feels right for you, by communicating with him about how far you want him to go inside.

Just Breathe

If you’re struggling with his dick inside you, try some deep breathing.

This may sound a little daft, but it’ll help calm you down and if you’re calm, your anus will relax and open up more.

Let him know that you want to pause for a moment at any time, and then let him know when you’re ready to continue again.

Another technique to try when you’re a little more comfortable is clenching your butt muscles when his dick is already inside and then relaxing them.

Pillow Talk

Getting down on your hands and knees, facing away from your partner as he enters you from behind is also a position that suits some people.

Because your partner has a big dick, you might want to start off by bringing your knees close to your chest and then slowly opening out on to all fours.

If you’re struggling with angle or depth of penetration, sliding a couple of pillows between your stomach and the bed can provide you with some extra support.

The support can also help you to relax more, as you won’t be tensing your muscles as much in order to maintain your position.

Hop on top

Just because you’re receiving, doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to get on top.

Facing your partner, straddle him and reach behind with your hands to guide his dick to your back entrance.

Once he’s inside, you’re in full control of how deep you want to go.

Experimenting with varying depths of penetration, either in the same session or across different sessions, can help you know how far you want his penis to go.

This applies to rhythm too – for beginners, taking things slowly and then gradually building up the speed is the way to go.

Related: Two men both say they have the world’s largest penis

What would Madonna do?

Sometimes you just don’t fancy penetration and that’s OK!

A sexual relationship is more than just penetrative anal sex, so if you’ve not been able to enjoy it with your partner, there’s plenty more things to be getting busy with in the bedroom.

Even the Queen of Pop dedicated a whole song to oral, so don’t overlook it.

Plumbing

If you’re not used to having a dick of a certain size inside you, we agree that it can feel a bit strange and overwhelming.

Sometimes sexual partners feel like they need to go for a pee during penetration, which is more common among people who lie on their back when being penetrated.

That’s because your partner’s dick is hitting your bladder and causing it to think you need to go to the toilet.

Trying another position or changing the angle of penetration might help to avoid this problem.

In general, it’s very common to feel like you need to go to the toilet when being penetrated.

Your body mistakenly thinks that your bowel is full, but don’t worry it’s just his dick.

Some final advice

Consent still applies, even if he is well endowed!

Negotiating safer sex with a partner who has a big dick is also about understanding that he might not have found the right condom size that suits him.

Letting him know that there are a variety of condom sizes (both length and width), that will help ensure that when he does use a condom, it fits his penis well.

Using a condom that is too small increases the risk of it breaking and puts you both at greater risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs).

Experience has a lot to answer for – sex, irrespective of your partner’s size, is a process of discovering what works best for you and communicating your wants and needs to your partner.

We’ve only included a few of the endless sex positions here, so don’t let that restrict your creativity between the sheets.