Ask the Aunties: Help! How do I know if I am truly bisexual?
Ask the Aunties
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Lee Gray, Karnage Kills and Rhys Hollis are the queer agony aunts you always wanted.
In the first episode of the series, a 16-year-old boy from Argentina – who wished to remain anonymous – has written in with a query about questioning his sexuality.
He asks: “How do I know if I am truly bisexual? I’m male, 16-years-old from Argentina, and I have a really strong attraction to women.
“That’s why I thought I was straight for the most part of my life, but lately I’ve been feeling attraction to the idea of being with a man.
“But as soon as I think about actually doing it, that desire wears off really quickly. Then it comes again, just to fade out once more.
“This feeling is not really as strong as the attraction I have to women, so that’s why I am really confused.
“I’ve identified as a straight man for my whole life before this.”
Watch the video below to see what advice our aunties give him.
“You don’t have to define your sexuality – it’s your business, you shouldn’t feel any pressure from anyone else to define yourself,” Karnage advised.
“Just to be clear, it’s going to be okay – give yourself the opportunity, honey, to explore,” Lee added.
“Sexuality is a spectrum and you can place anywhere on it, I don’t think it’s as simple as gay, straight or bisexual.
“You don’t have to be caught up on whether I am attracted to men or attracted to women,” Rhys said.
Lee Gray is a YouTuber and part-time podcaster with Karnage Kills – together they produce a podcast about black queer men’s experiences living and dating in London, called Wolves in the City.
Karnage is a rapper and grime artist from north London, regularly performing on the queer scene. You can also listen to his tracks on Soundcloud.
Rhys Hollis is a drag and cabaret performer, including at The Glory in Dalston, London. You catch him performing at Queefy Cabaret in London on June 8, 2018.
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