Trans woman’s response when a misogynist sent her an unsolicited nude is seriously eye-opening
Faye Kinley received an unwanted unsolicited nude on her phone, so she returned the favour. (Instagram)
Between reading about climate catastrophe and thumbing through Twitter, receiving an unsolicited nude is an easy way to have your day dampened.
But when a trans woman was sent an unwanted and rather revealing photo from a guy on her phone, she responded by returning the favour and the trans-misogyny seriously leapt out.
Faye Kinely from Glasgow, Scotland, was sent an explicit photo from a man she had never met earlier this week.
He dropped the 20-year-old a message saying “hey, girl, you are so sexy” before introducing himself not with his hand, but with his, uh, manhood.
“Well I saw it and I honestly was not surprised because I get it a lot,” Kinley told PinkNews.
“For some reason it just crossed my mind to send one back and the response was exactly as I expected.”
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Kinley screen-grabbed the conversation and posted it on Twitter – tallying more than 13,000 retweets and nearly 70,000 likes in under a day.
https://twitter.com/fayekinley/status/1176998164848619520
“This random guy somehow got my number off here and sent me a d**k pic and I guess he didn’t appreciate it when I sent a picture of mine back,” she wrote.
The man hit back with clipped, overacted replies and blocked her number.
“Worked like a charm,” Kinley added in the tweet.
Her mentions popped as a stream of support and superlatives flooded in for Kinley, with everything from “icon” to “you are so f**king powerful, I’m in love with you”.
Moreover, according to Kinley, her followers ballooned from 200 to nearing 5,000 as a result of just how viral the tweet went.
“Honestly the responses have been 99% positive and funny,” she said.
Trans woman Faye Kinley receives love and hate after going viral.
Finley’s flip incited a lot of conversation in the Twitter thread about why, to the anonymous guy, sending intimate photos was fine, but her doing the same was unthinkable.
Men really flip out when you treat them the way they treat you.
— Amy Rose ? (@SushiRollPhan) September 26, 2019
LOLLLL as if he didn’t just do that to you WHAT. men are a plague.
— ????? ??ℭ????? (@emrdec) September 26, 2019
Beneath all the positivity in the post, there was a meek undercurrent of transphobia. But Finley’s fans and followers were quick to shut them down.
Finley said that she anticipated the transphobia in the post – “That’s a given,” she told us – but refused to let it affect her. When it comes to dating apps, there’s “100%” transphobia on them.
“But the fact that these men want to clearly have sex with me before even knowing I’m trans and then act all appalled and transphobic afterwards just validated to me that it has nothing to do with my gender not being valid,” she said.
Faye Kinley has been showered from praise on Twitter for her “power move”. (Instagram)
“After all they found me attractive, and everything to do with them being insecure at the possibility of being attracted to someone with a penis ‘making them gay’.”
Dating apps, from the tiled torsos of Grindr to the swiping culture of Tinder, are not always the most welcoming places for trans folk.
These apps have been slugging in recognising the needs of trans users – only in 2017 did Grindr introduce gender pronouns on profiles.
While some trans people have spoken out about the discrimination they have faced simply for existing on these apps.
